Apr 18, 3 comments. Today, April 18, is anal sex day! Many women see these two words together and cringe. I have had good and bad experiences with anal sex. The first time is usually scary, disappointing, and some people may even hate it! But for me, after trying it again and again, using different methods and techniques, I finally figured out how to have pleasurable anal sex nearly every time.
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While anal sex is definitely more out there than it used to be, it still isn't exactly mainstream yet. Despite the fact that we've been experiencing a sexual revolution of sorts over the past couple of decades and feel more comfortable discussing acts that were previously taboo, the term " anal sex " is often still met with a cringe. Yup, war stories heard from friends have led many people to declare that hole an "exit only" zone. Typically it starts with a clueless boyfriend trying to shove it in, hoping that his partner will enjoy the experience — only to have the event in in trauma and pain.
1. Relax your mind...and body
More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy. The last thing you want to be before attempting anal is tense. If this is your first time trying anal sex, spend some time relaxing—take a hot bath, ask your partner to give you a sensual massage, heck, you can even meditate. You can also focus on specifically relaxing your anal muscles.
Anal sex is undeniably popular these days. Data from PornHub has shown that since , searches for anal sex have increased by percent. Just look at pop culture if you need more proof: Will anyone ever forget the famous Kim K Paper Magazine cover that nearly broke the internet? It's serious business, so before you throw yourself into it, full-throttle, spur of the moment, take a pause first. There is a lot more involved than you may have even realized. And if you don't go about it tactfully, anal can be painful, dangerous, or even traumatizing. In fact, many people can get turned off by anal sex forever because of a nasty first experience. And who wants that? That said, it definitely doesn't have to be awful. Anal sex has the potential be super hot, sexy, and incredibly enjoyable.